To My Feminist Friends (A Rant)

I have a couple friends who are feminists, and this post is to/about them.

Hey guys. It's cool that you're young women who stand up for your female rights. It's cool that you're willing to show everyone how powerful you are and how everyone is created equal and you're just expressing yourselves. I'm cool with that.

There's a couple things I'm not cool with, however.

For one, in English class (we're reading The Scarlet Letter for those who don't know), you don't have to disagree with every male character's standpoint. Let's get this straight. It's set in Puritan times, where almost everyone is super-religious and men and women had different roles in everyday life. Keep that in mind when you read the book. It bothers me that whenever you see something even remotely sexist, you blow it up into a big deal about how wrong it is. Like when Hester's husband is saying something like "You belong to me, yaddah yaddah yaddah". You got all flustered because in your eyes, he was saying that he owned her or whatever. Slow down, crazies. He probably meant something along the lines of "We belong together" or something lovey-dovey like that. Even if it was a connotation of ownership, that was just the time period. Who are we to judge people for what went on back then? We weren't there, so what information do we have to go off of? Words in a book? That was the CULTURE people were used to. They didn't know any other way of life, so that was acceptable for them. Of course it's not acceptable now, a lot of things in other cultures that are around today aren't acceptable to us, but what gives us the right to judge them for it? All I'm asking is that you keep your minds open to new, foreign ideas, and freak out when something comes up that you disagree with.

Also, I'm all for equal opportunities for both sexes. Discrimination is one of the main things I despise. But can we set some reasonable goals here? If you apply for a job or something, the person who's hiring is going to want someone who is able to do the job efficiently. Especially with applying for leadership roles, like as a construction manager, they're gonna want someone who can effectively get people to work and give orders and such. So when you get turned down for a job like that, don't be angry at them for discrimination if they picked a man for the job instead. Be realistic. Are you able to handle the job? Do people see you as being able? If not, you need to work on yourself before criticizing people. They probably just thought the guy would be a better fit for the job. Can you blame them for wanting to get work done quickly and efficiently? No, because that's what we all strive for. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men are better at everything, because they're obviously not (take childbirth for example. They'd suck at that). What I am trying to say, though, is that certain genders are more suitable for some specific roles. It's okay for women to be construction workers and men to be fashion designers (this will bring me into a different topic about my dad and homophobia, we'll save it for another time). It's acceptable. I know, sometimes people simply discriminate against women, but that's life. Life isn't fair. Deal with it, and I'm sorry for saying this, but stop being self-righteous bitches 90% of the time. We're humans; we agree and disagree, we all have differences, we all have flaws, and that's just the way it is. GET OVER YOURSELVES.

Also, if you're angered by this post and want to argue with me, by all means, hit me up on Facebook or Twitter or email (parczany@sbcglobal). Hey, while we're at it, maybe we'll settle some of our differences.

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